Disclosure
Q: What is exactly is this?
A: I’m a girl who expresses herself in many ways—of which, words are among my most precise. After constructing my About page, I felt like there was just a little something missing to complete the picture of the real me. This short, self-directed interview of me attempting to bare it all is my way of polishing off that portrait.
Q: Are you open about your transition?
A: While I generally try to look forward in life, I’m happy to share the process of transforming myself physically into the feminine being I’d always known I was. I started hormones at the age of 26 and quickly saw the results I was looking for, being correctly identified at a near universal level by the public within a year, and it wasn’t long before many would rank my beauty higher than the average woman, regardless of gender assigned at birth. As an innately sexual being, I prioritized a vaginoplasty and a labiaplasty in the years following, performed by one of the most renowned surgeons in the country. I chose not to have any breast enhancements as I prefer being natural. By the age of 30, I felt largely settled in the body I’d deserved, and I couldn’t be more grateful.
Q: Why did you get into companionship and why now?
A: It’s simply a dream that I’ve known I needed to fulfill for much of my life but foolishly told myself was impossible until I felt as beautiful and graceful as I’d prayed for as a little girl. In some ways, this companionship project is my way of making up for lost time and accelerating my journey of learning how to truly enjoy my life, no matter the cards dealt to me. I can’t imagine a better project to invest into that push me to try new things and truly explore myself intimately as the passionate woman I am in the company of those who can appreciate everything I am and what I offer as a companion.
Q: How would you describe yourself and your companionship?
A: I’m sensitive! I mean that in every aspect, physical and emotional, and while I understand that might not be the most universally attractive thing to admit, I do think it’s what makes me unique. It means I care deeply about things, I pay attention to the details, and most of all, I’m not afraid to feel. I think it’s easy to tell if the people around us are truly invested emotionally, and I’m just not interested in providing a kind of companionship centered around a fake persona and trying to deliver what I think people are looking for. Mass appeal is not my goal—and let’s be honest, was never an option for me—and yet I’m confident that being unafraid to offer my real self will lead to the kind of deep, soulful connection that so many of us are looking for. I also believe that my journey positions me well for suitors seeking growth and transformation in their lives, and while only you can change your own life, it can be helpful to have someone who has changed her own by your side. All of that said, as much heart as I try to pour into every date, I also keep strict boundaries between my relationships, treating privacy and discretion as the cornerstones of my companionship. To me, a date is a wonderful escape where very real and special memories are made but also expressly contained within those moments—and that’s a large of part of the magic.
Q: What do you do outside of companionship?
A: I’ll need to keep the details of my busy day job to myself for self-preservation, but I am happily employed as an independent consultant and educator of sorts working in my field for nearly a decade with all of its ups and downs. I also have a few exciting new ventures that I am hopeful will expand this line of work in ways never seen before. That said, I wouldn’t call myself a workaholic or a careerist by any means; I would rather find meaning in the work I do while being financially stable and ensuring I have enough time on my hands to take care of myself and to experience the world. This companionship project is not based on financial necessity but rather a concerted investment of time into my own personal journey of exploration and expression.
Q: How would you describe your relationship with BDSM?
A: Like most things, my attraction to the world of BDSM are probably rooted in my base needs and all that fun childhood stuff. But at the end of the day, it really doesn’t matter to me when I just know that I like what I like. The experience and pleasure of giving into a power exchange is just too irresistible to deny myself, even if my truest method of surrender can be very physical. I am fully aware that my darkest fantasies, while impossibly tempting, are always just a thin, fine line from going way too far and causing irreparable harm to myself or others. That’s why I always go the extra mile to ensure that consent and safety are well-established and upheld with the highest integrity with any suitor I engage with, moving only at the speed of trust, no matter how incremental it is built. While BDSM is core to who I am, I also have an extremely sensual, gentle, and romantic part of me that I enjoy nurturing just as much, so don’t worry if the S/M aspects of relationships don’t appeal to you.
Q: What are your favorite traits in an ideal suitor?
A: I’m rather selective about suitors and am perfectly comfortable with a very low volume as my companionship isn’t based on need. This project is purely about my own self exploration and expression, and I’m looking for suitors who can appreciate that ongoing journey, want to be a part of it, and experience growth and enrichment for themselves, too. Of course, there are some staple traits I value such as being reliable, respectful, discreet and courteous. In addition, I do appreciate a suitor who challenges me to try new things and expands the world for me while being protective, nurturing, affirming and conscientious of my safety and the particular trials I’ve faced to get here—and yes, I’m a total sucker for anyone who wants to simply treat me like a girl. I hope that my approach of allowing myself to share the real me can create an environment where my suitors can feel safe to be themselves, ignore external pressures to perform for others and let go of any inhibitions to what they really want in life.
Q: Do you have social media?
A: My social links are on the footer of my website, but if I’m being completely honest, I rather dislike social media and refuse to use it at all in my personal life. I recently decided to give it a try specifically for this project to see how it goes, and I do my best to show my personality and what’s going on in my life. That said, I much prefer to have actual interactions with people in real life, to be fully present in the moment rather than being preoccupied with content, and to reduce the noise and focus on the good things in my life. If this outlook resonates with you, we’ll probably get along.
Q: How else can I learn more about you?
A: A date, of course! I’ve probably already shared far more than I supposedly should prior to a first date, but I’ve got many layers and depth far beyond this interview, or at least I tell myself. I hope my little exposé gives you a tiny snapshot of who I am inside, and if you’ve read this far, I’m going to guess that you’re someone who is looking for a certain depth in your relationships. If I’m right, then you are likely to be someone whom I would be invested in not just learning about but truly knowing, understanding, and growing with. If this is precisely the kind of meeting that excites or intrigues you, consider booking a date with me!